What lies beneath

I’m sure many of you have felt the push/pull duality of the female sexual personae. Personally… I have. Trying to find the comfortable place where I can feel good about my feminine powers. It’s been a long hard journey. I was one of the girls who developed early, and was catapulted into womanhood. I think I spent a good deal time testing out various identities, slouching, dressing in clothes that looked like a potato sack, no make-up, super tight blouses, cleavage, turtle necks… etc.

Probably one of the biggest things I did was try to hide my intelligence by speaking like a valley girl (a habit, to this day, has not been broken). Oh well, I guess you just have to get to know me to realize I’m not a complete space cadet!

There are so many mixed messages about what is sexy for women. I for one, do not feel comfortable being anything other than my evolving self.. whether it’s a short-shorts hoochie mama, or suited-up corporate woman. It’s also refreshing to note that there are women who throw out the notion of a dualistic feminine nature create and own their own sexual personae. From a latex fetishwear company Atsuko Kudo to Locher’s not-so-nice embroidered shirts, to Japanese “not-so-slutty” garders. It’s very liberating and inspiring to be able to integrate more of these details and nuances in my attire, in such a subtle way…

5 Replies to “What lies beneath”

  1. i really hear you on this. and incidentally i am NUTS about Locher! i have a severe lust for the “Life is Fucked Up” design.

    magnificent find on the not-so-slutty garters!

  2. “… Trying to find a comfortable place where I can feel good about my feminine powers” – oh yeah! That is so about me as well!

  3. Testing various identities is adventurous thing of course, but you should never run away from real you. From what and who you really are, you know what I mean, right? 😉

  4. In elementary school, I was one of the first girls to, ahem, develop. Up until high school I felt dressing in baggy shirts and whatever else was ugly-comfy was the best thing to do. But now that I’m constantly surrounded by slutty looking, too-much cleavage exposed girls in my own school, I think I’ve learned (a little) how to be sexy without looking desperate, and to me that means being comfortable in clothes that you love and are unique, and not another tighter-than-skin Hollister shirt. And confidence! That is one thing I have recently been trying to work on. Confidence probably is the best accessory a woman can have!

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